Universities are not all that particular, sound and precise as they seem on the outside. There are certain grim realities of universities that are hard to digest but the truth is that these realities do exist and one should always be careful about them. There is a lot that goes on in universities. Some of these grim realities I will be talking about today which have derived from my own personal experiences.
Most of the students in universities tend to live in the moment. They don’t really know what they want in the future or how to work towards their goals, instead, they go to university to party. Most people go from college to university just because ‘it seems right’ and it’s an easy way to escape from reality, leave home and enjoy that newly found freedom. The problem with this is, they never know what tomorrow might bring because they don’t plan or focus on what is it they are set out to do.
A lot of the students who go to universities tend to go to universities outside of their area and therefore, are new to the environment they are in. Due to them missing home, they can be feel the urge to go out, enjoy and party too much to fill the missing void. Exploring the area and the people is no problem but depending on them to fill your happiness is where the problem lies.
A lot of Students refer to university as ‘living in another world’ and therefore, they tend to separate themselves from reality. The problem is, reality is REAL and it will hit you. Not having enough to pay your bills, developing bad habits, having bad relationships, coming out with low grades, not having any work experience or any money to take back home with you are REAL problems. These things can be avoided through wise thinking and decisions and not losing heign sight of who you are because every decision you make has a consequence.
It all looks good and well when you receive that first sum of money from student finance. Go ahead, go and splash your money, don’t plan, or save, spend it all in one week. This would be by far the dumbest idea ever, yet some people do it. Don’t rush to spend all your money, plan carefully and save for a rainy day! Do not, I repeat DO NOT result to WONGA or Quick Quids for additional loans because you will be in for the shock of your life. Debt is not a good thing. Your already in one debt don’t add to it! Control your finances, plan and save! Only spend when you need to and if you lack control, give your parents the money to hold for you.
One of the main things that go on in universities is dating and general boy issues. Separation from their families, can cause a big university bubble that endangers their future again. As a result, they become far away from studies and tend to indulge themselves in other things.
Boys can wait! I know it is every woman’s dream that they will find their future husband in uni but someone definitely lied to you. The reality is 99% of boys are out there for one thing. To smash. Don’t get caught up trying to find your Mr right because this is not the place to look for him. There are the few exceptions but chances are, you’re only digging yourself into a hole of heart break. It is important that people don’t depend on any one or get attached because for 1. Summer will come when you will have to depart and 2. He isn’t looking for a relationship anyway. The best thing to do is work on yourself, your health, your wealth, your life. You can be selfish because these are the only precious times you have left for yourself before life really begins.
Just because people are sleeping around doesn’t mean you should join them. STDs exist. Not even that but do you really wanna catch feelings for a fuck boy?
Some people go to uni just to see how many girls they can smash so watch out. If that's what you came to uni to do and it's something you love engaging in then by all means, each to their own. But don't get caught up just having sex for the sake of having sex because they are always repercussions, whether you catch an STD or catch feelings or even fall pregnant. Don't let society fool you. Going to uni doesn’t mean you have to engage in sexual activity. There are people out there who are saving themselves for marriage! if you choose to take that path, go ahead with it and don't let people steer you into this.
As a result of all these problems and the grim realities of the university life, there are certain things that student’s should do, including the following:
It is recommended for students to focus on themselves and make themselves grow as a person when they are in university. University life isn’t easy and with so many things that can distract you and make you lost, you should try to nurture yourself with things that help you grow as a person.
You should improve your mind and try to pursue things that contribute to your overall growth and focus. Your mind should be on your goals not on the other worldly things that can easily distract you. Partying, drugs, alcohol and other things are readily available and something that can distract people well. Avoid getting caught up with these things.
If your going to uni because you just cannot wait to leave home. Think twice. The idea of leaving home for the first time and enjoying life without your parents may look attractive on the surface. People think they are going on vacation or something but they forget.. Who’s going to Hoover the house, Who’s going to buy the groceries, Who’s going to cook the food, Who's going to wash the plates? Who is going to do the laundry? And so on. There is so many things that you're going to have to get used to, doing by yourself for the first time. There are people out there who are used to doing these things by themselves and therefore this aspect of university shouldn’t be such a challenge for them. However for the ones who haven't even learnt to cook, you will be in for the shock of your life. Weird things such as having to buy toilet roll for the first time might come as a bit of a surprise for you, but these are the consequences you have to face leaving home and growing up. It's not all celebrations leaving home and when you come home for the holidays, you start to realise what you’re really missing out on and you definitely start to appreciate your parents more. Don't see university as running away, staying on campus isn’t for everyone and you might want to consider commuting from home which will save you a lot of money. This was the wisest decision that I made and you just start to value how much support you get from your family.